Date (Conclusion)

The second date went fine, and as expected, he brought up the kiss and inquired about further pursuit, which I declined. He'd actually sat down to explain his philosophy of his polyamourous lifestyle, which I already knew from having spoke with him about it years ago, not to mention again on our first date. Okay, I get it!

I'd told him about my "marital" troubles on our first date, and he took that to mean I'm looking to pursue something on the sly. No, I'm not interested in an affair. If I was, I still wouldn't want it to be with him. I don't care if it's not considered an affair to someone who is poly'. I'm not currently in a poly' relationship, so it'd be an affair for me. And just because we are friends who get along in conversation, does not mean I'm also romantically interested. I have no problem with the polyamourous lifestyle. I think it's great! It's just not for me right now.

So I friend-zoned him, but nicely, and I think we'll be okay. We continued the date for a couple hours afterward, and he'd slip in some more bullet-points of being in a poly' relationship, which made him seem like he was being passively pushy about he and I getting together, and I ignored it.

We'll see how it goes if we go out again.